Update on "the visitor" AND the common comment...

Yes...that's right...those of you who've read my blog know that my cousin asked me for a little favor...read here.

So, it's been 3 weeks and I haven't heard from my cousin on whether her hubby was coming. So, I called her, thinking she would answer..nope. I left a message- please give me a call. Hubby and I are trying to prepare for your Hubby and need to get things in order. What time will he be here on Sunday, etc.

Nothing...nothing for 2 days..

until...I got a text message...yes...that's right....a TEXT message....

"My hubby will not be coming, his funding is on hold for a while. Thanks anyway."

COME ON! Do I not deserve a frickin' phone call? And with that...I'm over it....but completely relieved and happy we have a sense of normalcy again.



On another note, a youth volunteer at my place of employment was recently diagnosed with T1. Today was her first day back after getting diagnosed...she talked to me for a little bit but generally seemed happy and okay (for now). At the age of 13, I don't think it's hit her yet, but then again, her mom has T1, so she may be better prepared than I thought.

She brought her own lunch today, lots of packaged food- easy to carb count. I was standing in my boss' office with my boss and another co-worker when my boss said the following....

"I saw her earlier eating a VERY unhealthy lunch...and then she dove into the candy...so I asked her....'should you be eating that?"

My blood immediately boiled......I know my boss had good intentions and was generally looking out for the general health of our youth volunteer but I couldn't help but comment.

"Please don't take this the wrong way....but....the WORST thing you can say to a diabetic is....'should you be eating that?' I'm sure her lunch was checked by her mom and is probably packaged for easy carb counting."

I know that the volunteer was probably sneaking some candy...but it still made me get all uptight about that common comment that non-D's make.......

Do you think it's different when it comes to children and teenagers?

Test 1....

No LH surge.....I kinda figured that much given that today was the first day to "officially" test for an LH surge...can I still have sex tonight?? Haha!

What's with those stupid looking test things anyway? I literally had to spread out the entire instruction booklet from inside the box to understand how to read the results. It was like a newspaper....opening it up and holding it up to read it. Now, I'm a fairly smart person, but come on! If this line is lighter than this line, but if this line is darker than the other line....UGH!

At any rate, the blood sugar has been a little all over the place lately. I need to get it together and get things under control again. Honestly, I was doing sooo much better before the CGM, but for the benefit of trying to get pregnant, I'm going to stick with it. I put it on again a couple of days ago and so far it has not beeped at me that much, but it's still there...constantly haunting me.

My SIL and my brother went to their first appointment today with the fertility specialist. They are moving along quickly!! Their first doctor told her she was missing a fallopian tube and it would be nearly impossible for her to get pregnant on her own. Upon further investigation today at their fertility specialist, she is NOT missing a fallopian tube...what do ya know...it's been there the whole time. She's now on fertility drugs and she goes in on September 3rd to find out when they will do the artificial insemination. I really hope that in September I get some amazing news that I'm going to be an Aunt....and hopefully my own news of being a mommy....but we'll see. Either way, I'm totally pulling for them.....plus I'm completely dreading the consequences of me getting pregnant before her...just for emotional reasons.

So...I'm avoiding calling my cousin as well. Her husband is supposed to be coming this Sunday to stay with us for 3 weeks...however, I haven't heard a WORD from her in 3 weeks....last time we spoke...it was kind of up in the air.....so I now need to make that dreaded phone call and cross my fingers that he may not be coming at all....but I'm prepared if he does....

Things at work are going well- lots of changes but I'm excited for the next couple months. I got a phone call today for another interview, but I promptly turned it down....with a smile on my face. At least one part of my life is settled for now!

The BIG favor

So- I'm completely stressed and anxious. I probably will be for the next month or so given the big favor I've agreed to.

Here's my story...

I have a cousin- we are the same age but at completely different places in our life. She chose to get married when she was 17 and now has 2 beautiful boys (one has T1). Her husband was also very young when they got married, but the reason they chose to do so was because he joined the Marines.

They have moved ALL OVER the country- mainly living in California for the past 6 years in different places, never fully getting settled. I am grateful to say thank you to my cousin's hubby (BG) for his 3 tours of service in Iraq. I am completely and utterly thankful he has made it home 3 times with no more than a back injury.

You have to keep in mind through this story, that although my cousin and I talk on occasion- she's been gone for nearly 8 years. I've only met BG twice in my entire existence and the last time was 6 years ago......my Hubby has never met him.

So, my cousin and her beautiful family have moved back home....in Indiana- about 3 hours away from Hubby and I. She called me very unexpectedly on Monday and I was excited to return her call. They are currently living with BG's father and struggling to get on their feet (very sad- especially after 8 years of service).

Cousin: "Hey- I have a really really big favor to ask of you!"

So she asks me......BG is really struggling to get a job- he needs a license to work as a civilian- his 8 years of service does not get him a job in any company because he needs this specific license to operate heavy equipment. He needs to go back to school....there's a class in my city...

Can he come stay with you guys for 3 weeks?? It will be the end of August or end of September.

My initial reaction was of complete horror....especially since we are in full force baby making mode....kinda disrupts the plans here...maybe.

I told her I would call her back after the Hubby and I had a chance to talk.

What are we supposed to say??? They really need some help and here I am being selfish...nervous...anxious about bringing a family member (yet a complete stranger) into my home. I talk to both my parents and the Hubby and decided that it would be fine after we set a few ground rules.

Ground Rules:

1. I don't cook much....I will clear a shelf in my pantry and he's on his own for food (nor can I fund another eater in my house as we are saving for baby).

2. I'm not getting cable for his room- but when I get home from work- I want to be able to watch what I want on TV in my own home...(what would I do if he's chillin in front of the TV all day)

3. He needs to drive home on weekends- Hubby and I need some space and time- plus we have plans every single weekend....I don't want to feel like I have to entertain.

So- those are the ground rules we kinda discussed...I call cousin back....

I announce that we "gladly will host BG and welcome him into our home."

Her response- thank you- He'll be coming up on August 8th

WTF!!! August 8th- that's basically next week- I thought she said end of August at the earliest- so I question her...

Her response is that he got in the earlier class and it starts August 9th...he's going to come up Sunday night (the 8th) to get settled.

So- I tell her about some of the ground rules....mainly that we expect him to return home on weekends (I left the other 2 out). She then tells me that her and the kids will most likely come up and visit for a few days while he is here...A FEW DAYS? What the fuck is that all about? We have plans during every single weekend...and I'm not giving her full run of my house while we're goine...and 2nd...I have to work! I can't just drop everything and accommodate their instant desire to visit- she didn't even ask.

THEN...here's the kicker folks! She asks me "I have one more HUGE favor to ask of you!"

I brace myself for her question- "He needs another certification class immediately after he comes for the first 3 weeks....would it be possible for him to stay an additional 3 weeks for a GRAND TOTAL of 6 weeks?"

6 FUCKING WEEKS~! ????? NO way...no way...no way....that's an eternity with someone you've never met- and again....baby making....frustrating!

I tell her that I need to discuss with the Hubby and "let's just see how this goes first."

So- now we have company coming to live with us for a definite 3 weeks. We've decided we're going to turn down the 2nd 3 weeks and request he stay somewhere else- she did offer he could stay in a hotel.

I'm losing sleep over this....anxious all the time....and nervous. I think it's mainly because I don't know what to expect.

I feel like I'm being a bit selfish in that family needs to help family- but in my opinion- 6 weeks is a long time.

But...he did serve our country...so I'm torn....

But....what if my cousin comes up with the kids....I can't put my life on hold.


Oh what to do, what to do? I'm completely sick over this.

What would you do? What ground rules would you set? Am I being selfish or reasonable?

And the 3rd year begins...

Happily that is! The Hubby and I had a wonderful 2 year celebration of marriage on Monday! We both had the day off work and decided to spend it doing fun things with little cost. He woke me up and delivered Panara to me in bed- delicious chocolate chip toasted bagel with hazelnut cream cheese- an occasional and scrumptious delight! Although- this was the first time Panara came with hand-delivered fresh flowers- made me smile.

Since the 2nd anniversary is the "cotton" anniversary- I passed along some new cotton boxers for him to graciously wear (and hopefully throw out a few old ones :) TMI- I know...but why do men always wear the boxers with the holes in them...unnecessary in my opinion...but always makes me laugh!

We woke up and headed to the gym after picking up a delicious 5-inch cake from my favorite bakery down the street. The workout made me feel great. Off we headed for a picnic lunch up the road at our local State Park. We had a bottle of wine and some subs- but when we got there...the Cicada's attacked us....literally. They were EVERYWHERE and neither of us enjoyed the hiking moment of bugs flying all around. We did end up finding a nice quiet spot with a picnic table overlooking the lake and we had a very enjoyable lunch.

Because of the Cicada's- we ended up at a local wine tasting shop down the road where we shared a few tastes and opened a bottle of wine- which we finished later on our porch.

Dinner was great and the bottle of champagne we drank later that evening was even better- but we spent most of the day laughing and having a great time. This was our official "baby making" kick-off- so it was even more special. Luckily- I was not fertile during our wild wine and champagne day- so hopefully that will be my last drink for a while :) And...after that evening...I don't really want to look at a drink in a long time!


So tonight I'm extremely thankful for a wonderful husband and a wonderful marriage. I'm completely in love and excited to start having a family together.

This week did start off very stressful though...my cousin asked me a favor...a BIG favor....and I'm still processing as my stomach is in knots....more to come on this soon....just pray for me to have strength and generosity in my heart.